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Ask Marilyn: This Week's 'Strictly Personal' Question
Anonymous St. Louis, Missouri, writes:
Marilyn: My daughter and I were really close. Over the years, we talked about everything. Then she told me she is gay. I had no idea. I said that I didn't want to see her anymore. Her father and I are divorced. She left and moved in with his family. I don't know if she has told him she is gay. It's been two years now, and I haven't heard from her. I'm really hurt that I don't have my only daughter any more. Please advise.
You say that you haven't heard from her. But the same goes for her. Your daughter hasn't heard from you! Don't let another precious week go by. Call her and ask her to get together with you. Tell her how much you love her, how much you miss her, and apologize with all your heart for what you said. Tell her you deeply appreciate that she loved and trusted you enough to tell you that she is gay, and that you also realize how much it must have hurt her to reject her the way you did. (You say that she's your only daughter. Well, you're her only mom!)
And don't give up. Take all the blame on yourself, and keep reaching out to her until you succeed. You'll never regret it.