The other side of the domestic violence coin
Last week we talked about domestic violence. A response from a reader suggested the article was stereotypical: male abuser to a female victim. Although that was unintentional – he and she were interchangeable – today we will give equal time to the subject of men who are abused by women. It isn’t funny. It isn’t a joke. It happens. A case in point is the man who stitched his own wound with needle and thread because he feared ridicule if he reported the attack.
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (ncadv.org) says “one in four women and one in nine men experience severe intimate partner physical violence, intimate partner contact sexual violence, and/or intimate partner stalking with impacts such as injury, fearfulness, PTSD, use of victim services, contraction of sexually transmitted diseases …”
Physical abuse includes pushing, shoving and slapping. Severe physical abuse involves beating, burning and strangling. Victims of stalking fear or believe that they or someone close to them may be hurt or killed. Here are a few facts from NCADV about abuse experienced by males:
— 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner.
— 1 in 7 men have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner.
— 1 in 18 men have been stalked by an intimate partner.
— 1 in 71 men has been raped by an acquaintance.
— 5.1 million men in the U.S. have been stalked in their lifetime.
— Nearly half of stalking male victims were perpetrated by males.
— 4 in 10 men have experienced at least one form of coercive control (isolation from friends and family, manipulation, blackmail, deprivation of liberty, threats, economic control, exploitation).
— 1 in 20 male murder victims are killed by intimate partners.
NCADV advises that, “The majority of women who use force or violence against an intimate partner are battered women that are not safe … that women use physical force against intimate partners are battered women themselves, and strike out to stop attacks on themselves and/or to escape such attacks.”
In Ohio domestic violence misdemeanants are prohibited by Ohio law from possessing conceal carry permits. When law enforcement officers respond to a domestic violence call (considered to be one of the most dangerous because they don’t know what they will walk into) they are required to confiscate firearms if they have been used to harm or threaten harm to a victim.
The National Domestic Violence Hotline advises that “domestic violence can affect anyone – including men.
Artisans Against Domestic Violence will be featured at the fifth annual art exhibit from 4:30 to 8:30 p.m. Sept. 12 at East Palestine Country Club, 50834 Carmel Achor Road, Negley. The event is funded by Columbiana County Jobs and Family Services and Ozer Ministries. For more information about the art exhibit, call 330-426-2147 or email artisansagainstDV@yahoo.com. Artwork will be available for purchase.
Addiction has no address, but Family Recovery Center does. For more information about the education, prevention and treatment programs for substance abuse and related behavioral issues, contact the agency at 964 N. Market St., Lisbon; phone, 330-424-1468; or e-mail, firstname.lastname@example.org. Visit the web site at www.familyrecovery.org. Family Recovery Center is funded in part by Columbiana County Mental Health and Recovery Services Board.